Is deception part of the negotiation process?
Current negotiation literature accepts that some form of deception is in fact a necessary part of the bargaining process. For example, it is accepted practice to be unwilling to tell your ‘must have’ issues or to disclose your bottom line. In fact ‘This is my final offer’ is regarded as the most common lie told by negotiators.
So a question to ask yourself: As a negotiator, to what degree am I willing to lie?
Tips for Dealing with Deception
While most negotiators think they are good at catching deception, the fact is most of us are not. Studies show our hunches about the other party lying are wrong at least half of the time.
The good news is, with some effort, we can train ourselves to make observations that help detect deception. These are based on the view that deception is difficult to conceal because lying takes more mental effort than telling the truth. This causes anxiety and stress leading to cues that give people away when they lie.
Here are four tips to help you detect deception
1. Check facts. Before looking for behavioural cues indicating lying, check out your information base. Be sure you can separate facts from fiction and that you have validated your assumptions.
2. Ask questions. Be willing to ask lots of open questions (‘what’, ‘how’, ‘why’). Avoid closed questions that only give a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer.
3. Establish a behavioural baseline. The skill in detecting deception is to look for changes from usual ways of behaving. This requires first identifying a person’s natural behaviours as a base line. Then, at key points of uncertainty during negotiation, check for mixed signals or contradictions between their spoken word and their speech patterns and body language and note variations in frequency.
4. Listen and observe closely. Look for changes in general behaviours that research suggests lying is likely to produce. These include:
• facial expression – while remaining ‘poker-faced’ watch for subtle movements, changes in microexpressions
• eye contact – may be reduced, but mostly liars train themselves not to break eye contact (also note cultural variance of dropping gaze as a mark of respect)
• arms/hands – less expansive gestures, reduced movement in arms/hands/fingers, possible increase in fidgeting and hand-to-face contacts (eg. mouth cover, nose touch),
• blink rate – less than people telling the truth
• body posture – more controlled, tight
• body orientation – less close, moves/turns away
• body movements – while decrease in overall body movements note a possible increase in small body shifts, squirms
• nonverbal speech – note changes in pitch/pace and more pauses
• voice – may become tenser or more high or low-pitched
• speech errors – make fewer speech errors than truth-tellers, less ‘ahs’ and ‘ums’
• gaps in the ‘story’ – liars rarely backtrack to fill in forgotten or incorrect details.
However, always remember any of the above could be natural behaviours, not signs of lying. Focus on the whole range of behaviours and don’t rely on any single item.
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